The Winter Holidays are almost upon us. It is a time of darkness and light, joy and sorrow. It is a time for families to gather together and enjoy each other's company; but it is also a time when loneliness can pierce the heart, and the losses we have suffered can return in gaping emptiness. Family struggles can be magnified, tensions can increase, all in contrast to the images of cheer around us.
Let us remember to be kind to each other. Remember to call the friend who has lost a spouse or partner, a parent or child or other loved one. Make room for the bereaved to talk about those who are no longer with them. Think about inviting the person who lives alone to join in your festivities. Think about visiting a nursing home, or helping in the soup kitchen. Remember to say thank you. Remember to be patient with your family. Remember to forgive.
In this time of long nights and short days, as the cold and snow approach us, let us remember again the values we hold most close to our hearts—love, kindness, patience, gratitude, compassion. I was inspired by a short affirmation written by Thich Nhat Hahn:
I vow to offer joy to one person in the morning
and to help relieve the grief of one person in the afternoon.
I vow to live simply and sanely,
content with just a few possessions,
and to keep my body healthy.
I vow to let go of all worries and anxiety
in order to be light and free.
Perhaps we can take the advice of this wise Buddhist teacher, to help us live this December in warmth and peace. May your holidays be blessed!
Rev. Myke
